PORTLAND — Patricia Mercer Stanton, 94, of Portland, died peacefully on May 8, 2022 after a brief stay at Gosnell Memorial Hospice House in Scarborough.
Mom was born on November 18, 1927 in New Haven, Connecticut, the eldest child of Romon Gale Mercer and Ann (Tennyson) Mercer. She attended schools in New Haven and Madison, Conn. and the University of Connecticut in Storrs, Connecticut. She worked as a window designer, merchandiser, and shopper for Esther’s, a women’s clothing store on Temple Street in New Haven, Conn. In 1955 she married William Stanton, also of New Haven, Connecticut. During their 64-year marriage, they raised their family in the New Haven, Connecticut area and eventually settled in Orange, Connecticut for 38 years. In 2005 they moved to Portland.
As a woman of many passions and aspirations, Mom has made her world beautiful for herself and those around her. She was an avid gardener, equally at home with flowers, vegetables or rocks, creating striking landscapes and arrangements wherever she lived. Mom was also an adventurous chef, preparing Mexican, Vietnamese, Indonesian, and Middle Eastern foods in the 1960s and ’70s, long before there were restaurants featuring those cuisines in most American cities. For many years she was active with the League of Women Voters and with Project Concern, a regional effort to integrate Connecticut’s segregated schools and suburbs.
Calling her a housewife would be unfair; Mama was the heart of the house. She filled it with life, love, laughter, and a seemingly endless parade of desserts. She had an eye for detail and kept her world spotless and organized. She washed her bath towels every day and your glass while you were still drinking from it. Her closet was organized by color. Mom’s car, on the other hand, was covered in dog hair and the windows were covered with nose prints. We can’t explain this appalling interior, nor can we explain the exterior scratches and dents. The family feels sorry for the aggrieved parties, but realizes the statute of limitations has certainly passed.
Those who knew Mom, short or long term, would describe her as fiery and a force to be reckoned with. Her intelligence, wit, love and anger sparked like electricity and lit up the room that couldn’t be ignored. Her beautiful, expressive blue eyes twinkled and flashed, but could explode into laser beams in the blink of an eye, searing anything and everything in the room.
Patricia Stanton is survived by their three sons, Jeffrey, his wife Guiseppina Palma of Woodbridge, Connecticut, and their children Flavia and Giancarlo, and his wife Emma; David, his wife Ann of Scarborough and their children Haley and Sam; and Peter, his wife Sara Freedman of South Portland, and their children Eliot and Julia; her sister Roma Gale Howland, her husband Paul Balcom Howland of Warwick, RI, and their children Bruce, Jessica and Jonathan.
She was predeceased by her husband William Stanton; and her sister Emily Louise Mercer and partner Sally Nelson of Storrs, Connecticut.
To share memories of Patricia or leave online condolences to the family, please visit http://www.athutchins.com.
Like her late husband Bill, Patricia was not a fan of funerals, preferring instead that you cook a meal for loved ones or plant flowers in her memory. The family is asking that all donations be forwarded to the Hospice of Southern Maine, Scarborough.